Self-care has traditionally been something quiet you do for yourself to relieve stress and
calm your mind. But what if you tried some self-care with a friend? The pandemic has been very
Self-care has traditionally been something quiet you do for yourself to relieve stress and calm your mind. But what if you tried some self-care with a friend? The pandemic has been very isolating for most of us, so maybe it’s time to turn the idea of self-care on its head and focus on enriching our souls with friends and family.
“Self-care is anything that you do for yourself that feels nourishing,” says Marni Amsellem, PhD, a licensed psychologist based in Fairfield County, Connecticut.
Do you have someone in your life that embodies comfort to you? Carving out time to spend together regularly is an important way to release stress and anxiety. It also gives you an opportunity to be that safe place for a friend.
The key is to do things that don’t take a lot of preparation. Trying to create perfect scenarios will only lead to more stress and anxiety, and you should look for things that both of you will enjoy.
Here are some quick ideas for sharing self-care with a friend:
- Watching a favorite show or series together
- Making healthy meals for your freezer together
- Coffee dates
- Work on some easy crafts together
- Take a class together – could be yoga, learning to paint, try to look for things that are creative and achievable. Difficult classes are probably not going to lessen your stress
- Give each other mani/pedis
- Go for a nature walk – or walk the neighborhood together
Get creative! What are the things that bring you joy? What brings your friend joy? Try to create a schedule you can both manage. Keeping a schedule helps you stick to your self-care routine and offers both of you accountability. It’s far easier to stick to your self-care plan if someone else is counting on you to show up!
With that said, an important part of self-care is knowing your limits and giving yourself a break when you need to. Respect a friend’s decision to take some time to themselves to recharge on their own and let them know when you need to take some time to yourself also. What is important is creating the balance between spending time together and having time to yourself.
Self-care isn’t indulgent! It’s a very intentional way to let your body and your mind rest and recharge. If being alone does that for you, perfect! But if you find your soul craving connection, try some self-care with a friend. You’ll never regret the time you take for yourself by spending it with someone special to you.